I Don’t Want to Bother You…

This past week I’ve been called on to help some friends in my spiritual community. It is service that I gladly do – it is part of my calling as a priestess and a life coach.

I’ve also heard something a few too many times this week.”I know you’re a very busy woman. I don’t want to bother you.”

"When you choose to suffer in silence, you prolong your suffering. When you refuse to receive support, you deny me the joy of sharing my gifts with you. So we both suffer."Warning: incoming rant.

Yes, I am an extremely busy woman. I have a lot on my plate. And I sometimes struggle keeping my balance. But you know what? That’s my responsibility. Not yours.

I *chose* this path. I *chose* to the path of ministry and life coaching. I understand that means supporting my community. It is a path of service. I accept that.

That means if you call me, if you send me an email, or a Facebook message, I will do my best to respond. If you ask for my help, I will do what I can to provide it, or connect you with someone who can.

Being a busy woman means I may not be able to come running at the drop of a hat. However, I *will* find time. It’s up to me to manage my schedule – not you.

When you choose to suffer in silence, you prolong your suffering. When you refuse to receive support, you deny me the joy of sharing my gifts with you. So we both suffer.

So please. Stop trying to protect me. Reach out to me if you need to. I’ve gotten a lot better at making time for myself. I promise.

End rant.

Honestly, I really enjoy helping people, and seeing them (you) have “aha” moments. It gives me great joy!

Blessings,

Mary

 

 

Christmas and Birthdays and Yule, Oh My!

It’s Sunday night, and I’m in the middle of making cupcakes for my youngest son’s birthday party tomorrow.  His birthday is later this week. Tomorrow night, I will be going to the Christmas party for my work.

Earlier today, we went to a Solstice Celebration and potluck.  Last week, I went to a surprise birthday party for a close friend of mine, and my middle son’s Christmas concert.  And earlier this month was my husband’s birthday.

It seems like this time of year is exceptionally busy, and not just for me.  Everyone I know has multiple events, invitations and gatherings.  I also happen to be a last minute Christmas shopper, mostly because of the other events earlier in the month!

While Santa day looms up ahead of me, this year I am extremely grateful that I have my meditation practice and now my Life Coach to help me keep my balance and stay centered.

The feeling of overwhelm has threatened to, well, overwhelm me several times in the past few weeks.  And I have been so much more able to catch myself as I start to drift into the anxiety because I start each morning with meditation and intentions.

And in my coaching session just this morning, my coach pointed out that I am accomplishing a lot, and I have more time to work on my projects coming up very shortly.  Thank you, Hazel!

Oh, and hot chocolate helps too! 😉

What are you doing to keep your cool during the “silly season”?

Blessings,

Mary

Why Would I Hire a Life Coach?

Many of you know, I recently attended Life Coach Training through Coach for Life.  I had an amazing and enlightening time, and I learned a lot–about myself as well as the coaching profession.

When I tell people that I am a Life Coach, most people don’t understand what I do. That’s understandable, even when I knew I was going to the training, I had a hard time describing what it was I was going to be learning how to do! And I often dismissed the idea of hiring a coach as frivilous.

Well, I have now changed my mind! And not just because I am now a coach myself… I have begun receiving coaching, and it has already made a difference for me.  So here are some of the reason I would hire a coach:

  • I want to accelerate my learning/growth/business

We all know that professional, high-performance athletes have coaches to help them get to the top of their game. A coach observes the client from the outside, and can therefore see things that the client may not be able to see about themselves.  By pointing out where I am excelling, and sometimes where I may be able to tweak my performance, my coach helps me grow much faster than I could on my own.

  • I want accountability

I used to joke in University that I wore the Crown of Procrastination.  I would wait until the very last minute to get my assignments completed.  Even now, I will find myself waiting until the last minute to prepare for a presentation, or read that book that I borrowed.  Each week I decide on action steps with my coach, and then I have to report back to her on my progress.  Now, she’s not going to get mad if I don’t complete a step.  In fact, I will probably be much harder on myself than she will.  However, just knowing that someone else knows what I have told myself that I am going to do makes me want to accomplish it even more.

  • I want to know what I am already doing well

So much of the time I am so busy in the “doing” of my life, I don’t necessarily catch myself in my brilliance.  My coach can see those things that I already do well, and she points them out to me.  It is a tremendous boost in my self esteem!

  • I want to find my own answers

I hold the belief that any question I can come up with, I also have the means to find the answer to.  On my own, I can get caught in a tape loop in my mind.  My coach helps me step out of that loop, by breaking the cycle.  Hearing myself speak out loud can often help me find my own inspiration, and if not, my coach has other tools to help me re-connect with my own Divine Source.

  • I want to raise my level of awareness

In case you missed it in any of the previous bullet points, my coach points out things I miss.  Whether it is a belief I am holding that may or may not be serving me, or something I am already doing that I didn’t think I was, my coach is a much more objective observer than I am.

I’ll close off with this quote from the Coach for Life website, in answer to the question, “What is coaching?”

Coaching is holding a space of total acceptance for your self and for your client as you facilitate the client’s self-discovery and re-connection to their inner most truths about them self – their qualities, their gifts and their life purpose. The coach also facilitates the client with their conscious alignment with their inner most truths in their everyday decisions. The coach’s role is to raise the level of consciousness of the client through questions that allow the client to choose what they want, what they are prepared to do and what they are prepared to commit to them self in the present moment. The coach is charged with the responsibility of supporting the client by asking them what awareness came up for them in doing (or not doing) the commitments the client had made to them self.

Blessings,

Mary