It’s that time of year again. The time when all the media is going on about New Year’s Resolutions, and diet ads abound.
It’s the time when we look back on what we accomplished in the past year and look forward to what we would like to accomplish in the coming year. The time of year when we are inundated by advice about how to keep the resolutions that we make.
I don’t make resolutions on New Year’s. Most resolutions don’t actually come about. There’s any number of reasons for this. Many are made in the spur of the moment, are vague and are spoken only once. Eating healthier or exercising more are wonderful things, but how do you know if you’ve done them?
If you want to actually achieve what you set out to do, it is more effective to think about what you want, be specific and write down your goals.
In The Elements of Abundance, I talk about 5 steps for getting from where you are to where you want to be:
- Get clear on what you want. Using the weight loss example, if losing weight has been on your list for 10 years, and you haven’t managed to do it yet, why is that? Is it only on your list because society says fat isn’t beautiful (which is a total lie, btw)? Do you really want to be healthy, and deep down you know that has very little to do with the numbers on the scale? Using another example, if you’re not happy with your job, what would you rather be doing? Are you willing to put in the effort to make the necessary changes? What does your ideal life really look like?
- Change your language. “My body is healthy and strong” is a much more powerful affirmation than “I want to lose 10 lbs.” The way you talk to yourself has a direct effect on your performance in life.
- Focus on the feelings. How will you feel when you have achieved your goal? What you focus on you get more of, so if you’re focused on how crappy it is to not have what you want, guess what! You’re going to get more to feel crappy about. On the other hand, by focusing on what is going well for you, and how wonderful it will feel when you get what you wish for, you’ll get more of what things to feel great about.
- Take action. Wishing and hoping will only get you so far. Even a simple action such as writing down your goals will help you move closer towards your desires. The more action you take, the quicker you will achieve your dream.
- Make space for manifestation. This last step is a bit harder to put into words. It’s about positive expectation, and being open to receive what the Universe brings your way. Make room for what you’ve said you want to enter your life. If you’re wanting a new computer, make room for it on your desk. Get rid of the clutter that is holding the energy necessary for the new stuff to enter in.
One place a lot of people experience challenges is in the follow through. The goals are set, the vision is clear, and then life gets in the way. I’ll start tomorrow. Or the next day. There’s plenty of time.
The next thing you know it’s the end of the year. Again. While one of my favorite sayings is, “There are no unrealistic goals, only unrealistic timelines,” it’s easy to let that become an excuse not to get anything done. This is where a life coach comes in, to help you stay on track and focused on your goals. Your life coach helps keep the timeline moving along.
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Wishing you a happy and ABUNDANT New Year!