Why I Don’t Do Spells

As you know, I am a priestess. Specifically, a High Priestess in the Aquarian Tabernacle Church tradition, a Wiccan church. Many people consider Wiccan to be synonymous with witch. (I haven’t decided yet where I stand on that – there is still a lot of negative connotation to the word witch.)

Three WitchesAs we get closer to Halloween, all of the traditional sterotypes about witches come out – the women clad in black, wearing pointy hats, flying around on brooms, casting spells and mixing up potions over a bubbling cauldron.

In the past month, I have had at least three requests from strangers asking if I would do a spell for them. A couple of them offered to pay me whatever it would take if I would do a spell to get them what they wanted. And my answer every time is, “No.” (If I had less integrity I would take their money!)

I don’t do spells. Well, I rarely do spells for myself. I absolutely do not do spells for other people. And here’s why.

Spells work EXACTLY as you tell them to, which is not the same as the way you want them to. It takes practice, and work to get the words to clearly express what you are wanting. That’s challenging enough to do for myself, and I’m already in my own head and my own desires. Trying to sort that out for someone else…yeah.

I will not interfere with someone else’s free will. Even if it weren’t part of the laws of our tradition, (“Cast no spell for good nor ill, for or against, on or about another living person without that person’s knowledgeable approval, for it shall bear heavily on the heads of any not an Elder who does such an irresponsible deed.”), I don’t know that I could do it. I am not in their skin, I have not lived their life or experienced what they have. How can I possibly presume to know what is best for them? And even more so for someone I don’t know at all.

I don’t want to take on someone else’s karma. By interfering in someone’s life by doing a spell on or for them, you tie yourself to their karma. I have enough to deal with in regards to my own karma, I don’t need yours, thanks.

The Genie from Aladdin sums it up pretty well:

The main reason I don’t do spells for people is that 99.9% of the time there is a mundane solution to whatever challenge you are facing. Spells are a last resort, when all else fails. And even then, proceed with caution. You don’t know that something fantastic is just around the corner that you might mess up by doing a spell. Too many people think spells will solve all their problems, and really, it is a cop-out. It’s a way to NOT take responsibility for the things going on in their lives.

Now, I do magic all the time. Magic is shaping the Universe with my will. Another way of saying that is, “Belief creates reality.” Magic is similar to the Law of Attraction. Work on that before resorting to spells.


Redefining Free Time

Law of attraction teachers will say that to receive what you want, you have to know what you want. Be very clear about it.

For several years now, through coaching, meditation and journalling, as well as other tools, I have working to get clear on what I want. For me, it boils down to these three things:

  • Time freedom
  • Raise my vibration
  • Earn my living from my spiritual work

I’ve been actively working towards these three goals for over two years.

Free TimeRecently, I’ve noticed just how jam-packed my schedule is. Added responsibilities at work, rehearsing for a play, extra-curricular activities for my boys, and my own regular activities have left me with very little free time. That first goal feels ever so elusive right now!

One of my core beliefs is that my outer world is a reflection of my inner world. So it occurred to me during my morning meditation last week that perhaps my lack of free time has something to do with how I am thinking and talking about time.

I thought about that for a little while, and sure enough, all of my language about time was negative. “I don’t have time for that”, “when have I had time”, “in all my copious spare time” (read that last one with a heavy dose of sarcasm).

The past few days, I’ve been thinking about how I can change my thinking about time. It’s not been quite as clear as I had hoped. The first thing I need to realize is that I have chosen all of the things and activities that I am currently involved in.

I choose to go to work (the biggest allocation of my time) in service to my family, so we can continue to have a place to live and food to eat.

I chose to audition for the play, and then to accept the part I was offered. And I really am having fun and enjoying the new relationships I am building.

I chose to enroll my boys in karate, to encourage physical activity and self discipline.

I choose to continue writing my blog, and organizing my spiritual circle, and coach my clients. It fills me with joy to witness others grow and expand.

I really have more freedom than I thought I did, once I stop and re-frame how I see my time being used. Time freedom is more about who I am choosing to be, than what I am doing with my time.  Choosing to be in love and gratitude, no matter what I am doing, is my mission for this week!



PS. Happy Thanksgiving to everyone in Canada!

Divine Feminine Diamond Retreat

The two biggest areas most women I know struggle with are love and money.  Who wouldn’t want a better relationship and more money in the bank?

Well, a friend of mine and Law of Attraction coach, Lourdes Elardo-Gant, has combined the two subjects into one incredible weekend retreat, the Divine Feminine Diamond Retreat, or DFDR for short.  The DFDR will be held at the beautiful Kingfisher Resort in Courtenay, BC, November 26-28th.  And she’s invited me to be a guest speaker!  (I’m very excited!)

Lourdes is hosting a no-cost training call on Tuesday, October 28, 2010, at 5pm Pacific (8 pm Eastern) that you definitely don’t want to miss:

Relationship Success Secrets: 5 Simple Steps That Will Quickly Propel You To Break Through and Attract A Million Dollar Husband in a Year/6 Months/90 Days (You Choose!)… in Less Time, with Less Effort and Greater Ease, No Matter What Your Deadly Dating Pattern Is! with Lourdes Elardo-Gant

Email customerservice@milliondollarman.ca to register for this complimentary call.

Lourdes has coached women to create million dollar relationships. Her teachings are simple, easy to follow and fast for anyone to implement.  Best of all, she “walks her talk,” having attracted her own Million Dollar Husband.

As Lourdes explains, the secret is not in working harder, or trying to run your relationship “like a guy,” which only leaves you exhausted, burned out and frustrated. She skillfully applies Divine Feminine principles to proven attraction strategies and the results are magical, exciting and powerful (all the things a gal in life wants!).

So, join me on this one-time complimentary call with Lourdes where you’ll discover:

  • 3 sneaky ways you may be unconsciously discounting and undervaluing yourself, and what you can do today to break free of these deadly habits and enjoy the 1ncome you deserve to have (what Lourdes recommends may go against what you learned from well-intentioned but poverty conscious people – She’ll explain why your playing small doesn’t serve anyone)
  • How to know with certainty if your past is holding you back, limiting your manifestation and preventing you from working your magic with million dollar men (not to worry – Lourdes will share what steps you can take to remedy this quickly and authentically)
  • The hidden advantage every woman possesses that will help you attract a million dollar lifestyle (and why you MUST stop trying to run your relationship “like a guy” in order to discover this powerful, ancient Divine Feminine secret)

Lourdes will be sharing detailed CONTENT in this no-cost training call, so I STRONGLY URGE you to join her, LIVE. Just one tip could make the difference in saving you years of frustration and 1ncome that otherwise, once lost, can never be reclaimed. Don’t let that happen to you.

Email her to register now:customerservice@milliondollarman.ca

I can’t wait to hear you on this no-cost, high value call with Lourdes!



PS: Feel free to forward this to your friends and colleagues, but know that spots are LIMITED on this call be sure to reserve your spot first:customerservice@milliondollarman.ca

Update: If you’re at all interested in the retreat, the price is going up on Tuesday, October 19th, but Lourdes is holding the price an extra week just for my friends.  Click here to register!