Feeling the Collective Fear and Loving Anyway

There’s a lot of anxiety in the world right now. Whether you believe that the world is going to end some time today or not, it’s not very clear what is going to happen next.

There’s all kinds of talk about a change in consciousness, or a shift in vibration, or the dawning of a new age. What does all that mean? What will it look like? Will we wake up tomorrow and suddenly be able to read each others’ minds? Or will all the wars just stop because everyone realizes (finally) that we are all connected and our differences make us stronger? Or will some people have mysteriously vanished during the night, leaving the rest of us to fend for ourselves?

I wish I had the answers to those questions. I could be a very rich woman! 🙂

Here there be monstersWhatever you believe, I think most people believe that today marks a change of some kind. For a lot of people, myself included at times, uncertainty = fear. There could be monsters in that great big unknown after all.

Some of us are more sensitive to the energy and emotions of the world than others. And some of us are better equipped to handle that energy than others. (I think the tragedies of last week were a reflection of our collective fear from people who were sensitive to it and couldn’t handle it.) There’s no shame in getting caught up in that whirlpool of fear – I did, too. The trick is to notice when it is happening, so it doesn’t drown you.

How do you do that? I mean, when I am in the grip of strong emotion, that’s all that exists for me.

Eventually, though, I get to a place where I can say to myself, this sucks. I don’t like feeling like this. And that’s when I can start to ask myself where it is coming from. Most of the time, those strong emotions come from perceptions and judgments I have made about the world around me and the people in it. Sometimes, though, when I ask myself that question, I realize that it’s not necessarily coming from within me. I’m picking it up from somewhere else.

Once you are aware of what is going on, and you understand where it is coming from, you can take steps to change it.

I listed a few ideas a couple of weeks ago (has this fear vibration really been going on that long?) on how to pull yourself out of hopelessness. Here are a few more easy ways to change your mood and get out of fear and into love:

  1. Smile! Your facial expressions can actually create your feelings. If you are feeling down, smiling will actually help lift you up. (It works both ways though – if you’re feeling fine, making an angry or sad face and holding it for any length of time will create those emotions physiologically in your body.)
  2. Laugh. See above.
  3. Random acts of kindness. We all love to give, and doing something nice for someone else is a definite mood booster.
  4. Remember something happy. Reliving a cherished, positive memory will recreate those same feelings in your body.
  5. Tell someone you love them. A friend of mine posted on Facebook this week that she has a new mission: each day tell a complete stranger that they are her brother/sister and that she loves them. What a fantastic way to spread the love vibration!

Martin Luther King, Jr. said it beautifully:

Darkness cannot drive out darkness: only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate: only love can do that.

It is time to light up the darkness, and conquer fear with love. That’s the vision I would like to see moving into the new age that today is supposed to bring.

What is your favorite way to shift your fear into love? Leave your comments below!



PS. Happy Yule!

Choosing Love or Choosing Fear?

The other day on Facebook, this picture caught my eye:

Fear vs. Love

Fear vs. Love

It was paired with the following quote (thank you, Erica Boersma):

“Too many of us are not living our dreams because we are living our fears.” ~ Les Brown

It was perfect timing for me, as I was contemplating the idea of stepping out of my comfort zone.

For some time now, I feel I have been in a bit of a holding pattern.  There are many things I would like to do, and yet I need to be able to feed my children.  So I continue working at my day job, tinkering away at several other projects on the side, and hoping that a miracle will happen, or deus ex machina will save me from my routine.

I understand that for my situation to change, *I* must change. And still, fear holds me back.  I chose to bring these three amazing children into this world, and I chose the responsibility that goes along with it.  So how can I make a choice that threatens their very survival?

In my coaching work, I encourage others to trust that the Universe will provide.  And if I were my only responsibility, I would absolutely trust. Its not just me though. Others depend on me for food and shelter. So how do I reconcile that with my trust (or in this case, the lack of trust) in the Universe?

I am definitely feeling like the figure in the drawing, walking a tightrope between who I am now, and who I want to be.  And at any moment, fear or love could tip the balance and send me plummeting down or racing forward. Or, the choice could leave me frozen in space, not willing to step forward or backward.

There are times when I think it would be easier if I were less aware.  I could go to work and watch television and not know how much more was out there to experience.  Yet, Oliver Wendell Holmes spoke true when he said,

The mind, once expanded to the dimensions of larger ideas, never returns to its original size.

So I shall wait for the fear to pass, and turn my mind to thoughts of love and abundance, and pray that change comes easily and joyfully.

Have any of you ever faced a major decision in your life that affected others, including yourself?  How did you deal with it?  I’d love to hear from you in the comments.