Why I Don’t Do Spells

As you know, I am a priestess. Specifically, a High Priestess in the Aquarian Tabernacle Church tradition, a Wiccan church. Many people consider Wiccan to be synonymous with witch. (I haven’t decided yet where I stand on that – there is still a lot of negative connotation to the word witch.)

Three WitchesAs we get closer to Halloween, all of the traditional sterotypes about witches come out – the women clad in black, wearing pointy hats, flying around on brooms, casting spells and mixing up potions over a bubbling cauldron.

In the past month, I have had at least three requests from strangers asking if I would do a spell for them. A couple of them offered to pay me whatever it would take if I would do a spell to get them what they wanted. And my answer every time is, “No.” (If I had less integrity I would take their money!)

I don’t do spells. Well, I rarely do spells for myself. I absolutely do not do spells for other people. And here’s why.

Spells work EXACTLY as you tell them to, which is not the same as the way you want them to. It takes practice, and work to get the words to clearly express what you are wanting. That’s challenging enough to do for myself, and I’m already in my own head and my own desires. Trying to sort that out for someone else…yeah.

I will not interfere with someone else’s free will. Even if it weren’t part of the laws of our tradition, (“Cast no spell for good nor ill, for or against, on or about another living person without that person’s knowledgeable approval, for it shall bear heavily on the heads of any not an Elder who does such an irresponsible deed.”), I don’t know that I could do it. I am not in their skin, I have not lived their life or experienced what they have. How can I possibly presume to know what is best for them? And even more so for someone I don’t know at all.

I don’t want to take on someone else’s karma. By interfering in someone’s life by doing a spell on or for them, you tie yourself to their karma. I have enough to deal with in regards to my own karma, I don’t need yours, thanks.

The Genie from Aladdin sums it up pretty well:

The main reason I don’t do spells for people is that 99.9% of the time there is a mundane solution to whatever challenge you are facing. Spells are a last resort, when all else fails. And even then, proceed with caution. You don’t know that something fantastic is just around the corner that you might mess up by doing a spell. Too many people think spells will solve all their problems, and really, it is a cop-out. It’s a way to NOT take responsibility for the things going on in their lives.

Now, I do magic all the time. Magic is shaping the Universe with my will. Another way of saying that is, “Belief creates reality.” Magic is similar to the Law of Attraction. Work on that before resorting to spells.


Our Differences Reflect Our Similarities

Last week I received an email inviting me to participate in an Interfaith Dialogue. The invitation came just a few days before the event. I had to make some arrangements with my husband to share our vehicle so we could both get to where we needed to be that afternoon, and I am grateful he was willing to work with me so I could attend.

Interfaith World SymbolsI had no idea what to expect. I’ve been trying to find and connect with any local interfaith organizations, and there isn’t a lot going on here. There are also a lot of misconceptions about Wicca out there. Hollywood hasn’t always painted my faith in a positive light.

All I knew was the date and time, and that there would be some small group discussions. Still, I was very excited!

When I arrived on Tuesday, I was greeted by a very welcoming group. The event was organized by a summer intern at the Comox Valley Presbyterian Church. Besides myself and the Presbyterians, there were representatives from Baha’i, Unitarian, and Humanist groups. Each guest took a few moments to introduce ourselves, and then we split up into three groups to share more deeply.

What struck me most as each person introduced themselves and their beliefs was how similar we all are. As each representative introduced themselves, I found myself nodding in agreement with many of their basic beliefs. Other than Humanism, which is more of an ethical code than a faith, we all believe in a higher power. All of us want what is best for society and the human race as a whole, and not only what is best for individuals. Though we may have used slightly different words, we agreed that religion is a way to access or express our individual spirituality.

The group that came to the session was primarily from the Presbyterian church. They were welcoming, open and very respectful of the other faiths. They asked wonderful questions, and participated in the discussion fully. I think I learned as much from the discussion as they did.

The essence of all religions is one. Only their approaches are different.

Mahatma Gandhi

I’d love to see more people take the time to learn about other beliefs, to find the similarities, and not just the differences. I find the more I learn about other beliefs, the more clear I am about my own. Sometimes someone else says something in a way that is much simpler or clearer than I could have said it. Sometimes I find my beliefs to be very different. I know that I don’t know everything, and I have much to learn from the people I encounter.

How do you react when someone’s beliefs challenge your own? And do you practice looking for the differences, or do you look for what makes you the same?



The Search for a Priest

My apologies for not posting last week. Thank you for your patience!

Here is part 3 in the “How I became a priestess” series. In this video, I describe how I became affiliated with the Aquarian Tabernacle Church of Canada.

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How I Became a Priestess

While learning to be a priestess was something I dreamed of, it was more in the realm of fantasy for me. It wasn’t something I really thought I would ever become. However, it kind of snuck up on me.