I’m Happy For You!

I’ve noticed an interesting shift in myself recently. I’m genuinely happy for other people’s successes. Not that I wasn’t happy for people in the past. It’s different now, though.

I'm so excited for you! Tell me all about itAlways in the past, whenever someone would share good news with me, I would express happiness. Inside, though, I would often feel jealousy. Not much, just a twinge. OK, sometimes a lot, depending on how big the news was. My happiness for others was tainted. Why wasn’t that, or similar, good fortune coming my way?

Lately, however, that twinge is gone. I honestly feel excited for others’ happiness. I want to see my friends joyful and successful!

Sure, there are still some things that I would like improved in my own life. There is always room for improvement. And I enjoy celebrating my own achievements.

Right now, though, I want to celebrate YOUR achievements! What is going well in your life? What’s new and exciting? Drop me a comment and let me celebrate you!

Blessings,

Mary

 

How is cleaning house like learning to ride a bike?

And what do either of those things have to do with success?

success and comfortWell, I’ve been on a mission this week – to clear out the clutter and clean up my space. I’ve said before, I am not a great housekeeper. There are many other things I would prefer to be doing.

I’ve tidied up some of my living spaces – my bedroom, my computer desk, the bathroom – all the horizontal spaces that clutter tends to accumulate. I’ve gone through a box of papers I have been avoiding for probably a year and a half – thrown a whole lot away, and filed some of it. It feels really good!

It’s taking me quite a while. And some of the clutter seems to be migrating, or threatening to resume it’s old home. I just keep working away, a little each day, because it feels so freeing. Like all this stuff has had control of my life, weighing me down, and by getting rid of it I am taking back control.

Even in the middle of cleaning, though, I took a break to help my youngest son ride his bike. He’s seven, and he’s been afraid to ride. Actually, he’s been afraid to fall, so he has been content just to ride on the scooter. When we were visiting my sister, he had some positive peer pressure – his cousin, who is younger than him, was riding his bike, with no training wheels. My youngest spent some time on the youngest cousin’s bike, which had training wheels. And then he did something with my sister, and later my brother-in-law, that he wouldn’t do with me at home: he rode the bigger bike with them holding on to the back. He even got to where he was starting to ride on his own.

Then he fell off the scooter, and scraped up his hip. And the old fear of falling came right back. He didn’t really ride the bike the rest of the trip, and hasn’t touched his own bike here…until last night.

He was playing outside, and then I heard him ringing the bell on the handle bars. Soon he came in and put on his helmet. He said, “I’m going to try riding my bike, but on the grass, so I don’t hurt myself if I fall. Will you watch me, mom?”

Of course! He tried on the grass, and it was a little challenging. Our yard is not very even. So after some encouragement, I suggested he try on the pavement. When he saw how much easier it was on the pavement, he went out to the street. This was stretching his comfort zone quite a ways, though, and he asked for me to hold on and walk with him to keep his balance.

As soon as he was going, I let go, encouraging and cheering all the way. With only a couple of stops, and no falls, he rode all the way to the end of the street and back. And he was so proud of himself!

I was comfortable with my clutter. And then something urged me to start letting it go. My son was comfortable not riding his bike. And then he saw how comfortable his cousin was.

I was afraid that by starting to clean, I would have to keep going forever. My son was afraid of falling.

Each of us is taking baby steps, and each of us is finding success outside our comfort zone. Each of us has experienced the pride of overcoming a challenge.

Where are you hiding inside your comfort zone? Here are some steps to help move you out of your comfort zone and into success:

  • Act in spite of your fear. It’s OK to be afraid. Fear doesn’t have to stop you, though.
  • Take baby steps. Break it down into smaller chunks so it is not overwhelming.
  • Take pride in a job well done! Congratulate yourself, even for the little steps. It’s not always easy to move outside your comfort zone.

Leave a comment and let me know what you are doing to move from comfort to success!

Blessings,

Mary

There’s No Such Thing as an Overnight Success

I’ve been thinking lately about how much work it takes to become an “overnight” success. We hear success stories all the time – like Susan Boyle, the woman who sang on Britain’s Got Talent and overnight became a YouTube Star. It’s everyone’s dream – an woman takes a courageous step and sings on a television show, and it turns out she has a voice like an angel. She is suddenly discovered, and lives happily ever after.

It’s something I sometimes dream about – some publisher will see my writing and ask me to write a book, or some audio book producer will hear my guided meditations and ask me to record a book. Or that ten people will suddenly ask me to be their coach and offer to pay me really well.

And I also know that most of the time, the world doesn’t work that way.  The authors of the Chicken Soup for the Soul books were rejected by over 140 publishers before finally finding one that would take a chance on them. Thomas Edison failed thousands of times to create a working incandescent bulb before finally achieving that goal.

Take actionWhat do these successful people have in common? They kept going. They didn’t let their challenges stop them. They know what needs to be done, and they do it.

And most of us know what we need to do to be successful at whatever our chosen dream is. We just choose not to do it. Why is that?

Because we get discouraged. It’s not very satisfying to work at something day after day and see very little, if any, results, much less financial reward. We’d rather have instant gratification. Or we convince ourselves that we didn’t really want it in the first place, and we let our dream die.

It takes persistence and perseverance to achieve your goals. I’ve been writing at least one blog post a week for almost three years. And only now after my crazy blog challenge are my website hits over 100 per day – most of the time. Unfortunately, that doesn’t translate directly into people buying my guided meditations or signing up for coaching.

And yet I have a dream that one day I will earn my living through my spiritual work – through coaching, selling guided meditations and one day books. So I keep at it. I keep writing to keep that vision there in front of me.

What is your dream? Is it alive and vivid for you? Or is it gasping and close to death?

Take some time today and dream a little. Think about what your life would be like if you achieved that dream. How would you feel? Then figure out one thing you could do today to move you closer to that dream. It doesn’t have to be big. Just a little step to get you back into action to reach your goal.

Remember, there are no unrealistic goals, only unrealistic timelines.

Blessings,

Mary

 

Reflections on The ONE

Wow! What an amazing weekend!

Walks Within Exhibitor TableAs many of you know (because I’ve been talking about it for the last few weeks), I was an exhibitor and speaker at The ONE: A Spiritual Event in Parksville, BC, this weekend.  The days were pretty long, but the vibration was very high.

The turnout was a little small, though not bad for a first event. Sales were ok, and I made some amazing connections that I don’t know how else I would have made had I not been there. Though it may not qualify as a financial “success”, how do I measure the value of the exposure to new people?

It was such a joy to be a part of a cooperative event that was focused on love and unity. We were all there to lift each other up and help each other out. I was blessed to present two workshops, and everyone enjoyed the guided meditations in each workshop. If even one of those people begins to meditate on a more regular basis, I have achieved success.

I look forward to the next one!

Blessings,

Mary