Money Myths, Abundance and a Giveaway!

I don’t remember ever hearing it outright, but somehow when I was young I learned that truly spiritual people did not need or want money. There are lots of clichés about money:

  • money treeMoney is the root of all evil.
  • It is better to give than to receive.
  • Neither a borrower nor a lender be.
  • Money doesn’t grow on trees.
  • You can’t take it with you.
  • Money isn’t everything.
  • Money can’t buy happiness.

Some of these have truth in them, and some are, unfortunately, mis-quotes. For example, I have learned from a number of different sources that the first two quotes should really read, “The love of money is the root of all evil,” and, “It is better to be in a position to give than in a position where you need to receive.” Taken all together, the message I got was that money, or wealth, is bad.

It probably didn’t help that my family didn’t have a lot of money. My dad was always talking about this plan or that opportunity, but he never “made it” with any of them. Every once in a while, my father would tell me about how he could have made a lot of money with this or that, except for the thing that held him back. There is always an excuse.

Several years ago, I spent a lot of time attending courses and listening to audios and reading books about how to become successful or how to become wealthy.  I learned a lot, but following in my father’s footsteps, I had a number of excuses and I did not apply what I have learned in my life.  As easy as it might be to blame my parents, I don’t.

The courses I went to were great at motivating me while I was there in the room and surrounded by others who were just as hyped up as I was.  Unfortunately, they didn’t offer an action plan to get me going or keep me motivated once I got home.  They also did a very good job at appealing to my logic, but failed to engage my spirit.  Once again, it sounds like I am blaming the courses for my lack of action, but please believe that I do not.  I take full responsibility for my procrastination!

One course I went to at the end of October 2008 was different from the others.  Instead of trying to teach methods of becoming wealthy, the point was to work on discovering the negative beliefs and conditioning we all have around money, and replace them with positive and supportive beliefs.  I was amazed at the energy level of the room, and astounded at the depth of the work accomplished in a huge room of 450 people.  The presenters managed to create and hold safe space for us to work in.  I uncovered many of my own limiting beliefs and patterns.

Today, I understand and believe deep in my core that I am a child of the Divine.  Since the Divine Spirit created everything in the Universe, and since I am a child of the Divine, everything in the Universe is my inheritance.  It is my birthright, and yours!  Each of us has come to this place and this time for a specific reason, and everything we need to accomplish our individual purposes has been provided for us.  All we need to do is ask and be open to receiving.

In the Elements of Abundance class, we worked on changing our beliefs about money, our feelings about wealth, our actions to achieve our visions, and how we receive the abundance that is all around us. And even I have been amazed at the results the people in the class have been having!

I’ll be running another session in the late spring. Would you like to take part? I’m giving away a spot in my next Elements of Abundance course, and you could be the lucky winner! Just leave a comment below (on the blog, not on Facebook) letting me know why you would like to take the Elements of Abundance course. I’ll announce the lucky winner April 15th. Good luck!

Blessings,

Mary

I’m Back!

Did you miss me? I’ve been a very busy girl – yesterday was my first real day off in weeks. Now it’s time to get back in the regular routine of blogging and work and overworking myself. Well, I’m working on NOT doing that last one.

Blessings,

Mary

There’s No Such Thing as an Overnight Success

I’ve been thinking lately about how much work it takes to become an “overnight” success. We hear success stories all the time – like Susan Boyle, the woman who sang on Britain’s Got Talent and overnight became a YouTube Star. It’s everyone’s dream – an woman takes a courageous step and sings on a television show, and it turns out she has a voice like an angel. She is suddenly discovered, and lives happily ever after.

It’s something I sometimes dream about – some publisher will see my writing and ask me to write a book, or some audio book producer will hear my guided meditations and ask me to record a book. Or that ten people will suddenly ask me to be their coach and offer to pay me really well.

And I also know that most of the time, the world doesn’t work that way.  The authors of the Chicken Soup for the Soul books were rejected by over 140 publishers before finally finding one that would take a chance on them. Thomas Edison failed thousands of times to create a working incandescent bulb before finally achieving that goal.

Take actionWhat do these successful people have in common? They kept going. They didn’t let their challenges stop them. They know what needs to be done, and they do it.

And most of us know what we need to do to be successful at whatever our chosen dream is. We just choose not to do it. Why is that?

Because we get discouraged. It’s not very satisfying to work at something day after day and see very little, if any, results, much less financial reward. We’d rather have instant gratification. Or we convince ourselves that we didn’t really want it in the first place, and we let our dream die.

It takes persistence and perseverance to achieve your goals. I’ve been writing at least one blog post a week for almost three years. And only now after my crazy blog challenge are my website hits over 100 per day – most of the time. Unfortunately, that doesn’t translate directly into people buying my guided meditations or signing up for coaching.

And yet I have a dream that one day I will earn my living through my spiritual work – through coaching, selling guided meditations and one day books. So I keep at it. I keep writing to keep that vision there in front of me.

What is your dream? Is it alive and vivid for you? Or is it gasping and close to death?

Take some time today and dream a little. Think about what your life would be like if you achieved that dream. How would you feel? Then figure out one thing you could do today to move you closer to that dream. It doesn’t have to be big. Just a little step to get you back into action to reach your goal.

Remember, there are no unrealistic goals, only unrealistic timelines.

Blessings,

Mary

 

The Search for a Priest

My apologies for not posting last week. Thank you for your patience!

Here is part 3 in the “How I became a priestess” series. In this video, I describe how I became affiliated with the Aquarian Tabernacle Church of Canada.

Please remember to buy a meditation before July 9th! All proceeds go to help Jamie Sumner learn an effective trauma treatment so she can give back to the community.

Blessings,

Mary

How I Became a Priestess

While learning to be a priestess was something I dreamed of, it was more in the realm of fantasy for me. It wasn’t something I really thought I would ever become. However, it kind of snuck up on me.

Blessings,
Mary

I’ve Been Hiding Something

I recently enrolled in a 90-day intensive coaching program to take my business to the next level (i.e. not just a hobby). One of my mentors shared this with us this week, and it really struck a chord for me.

RUN TO THE FEAR…IT’S WHAT IS VALUABLE!

The things we fear are probably feared by others, and when we avoid them, we’re doing what others are doing as well.

Which is why there’s a scarcity of whatever work it is we’re avoiding.

And of course, scarcity often creates value.

The shortcut is simple: if you’re afraid of something, of putting yourself out there, of creating a kind of connection or a promise, that’s a clue that you’re on the right track. Go, do that.

Garrett J White

Mary HidingThat quote, in combination with exploring my story, the turning points in my life, and my message, really got me thinking. A lot of my story – what brought me to this point in my life, this website, the meditations and the spiritual coaching – revolves around my spirituality.

And yet, I’ve been dancing around that spirituality without being clear about it for almost three years. I was afraid of being judged. I was afraid of not being liked. I was afraid of scaring off potential clients.

This week I realized that my fear has kept me small, and it has made my message murky. I haven’t been completely authentic or in alignment with myself on Walks Within. It even kept me from sharing a huge accomplishment a couple of months ago. That changes today.

If you haven’t guessed it from some of my postings, I am Pagan. In fact, I am a High Priestess with the Aquarian Tabernacle Church of Canada, a legally recognized Wiccan Church. I have a congregation of people that I serve and teach on a regular basis.

The words “Wiccan” and “Pagan” have some negative connotations, and those negative connotations are part of what has driven my fear. It may even bring up some fear for you. Here is what being a Wiccan means to me:

  • I honor both the feminine and masculine aspects of the Divine
  • I honor the Divine in everyone
  • I honor the Divine in the natural world all around me
  • I honor the Truth in all forms of spirituality
  • I honor each individual’s path to the Divine
  • I take responsibility for my actions and everything that happens to me

That’s the basics for me. Over the next few weeks I’ll be sharing my story with you. I want to thank you for being part of my journey, and continuing to learn and grow with me.

Blessings,

Mary

The Importance of Ritual, Part 2

Last week I talked about the difference between ritual and routine, and that intention plays a big part.  This week, I’m going to talk about why I would want to make more of my routines into rituals.

Several of you left comments last week about how the shift in perspective from routine to ritual helped make those things flow more easily.  I’ve certainly noticed that in my life. For example, each night before bed I prepare my raw breakfast for the morning.  I pour the filtered water in the bowl, and put the seeds and oats in to soak.  For me, this ritual is about nourishing my body in a healthy way and starting my day off right.  I end the day preparing for the next day, telling the Universe I plan to wake up in the morning, and creating a circular flow to my days.  And so flow is a big reason to focus on ritual.

One of my core beliefs is that I am a soul having a human experience.  My soul is an extension of the Creator.  I am made of Divine Source energy, and so is everyone and everything in my experience.  When I am coming from a place of ritual, I am recognizing and honoring the Divine in all aspects of my life.  I feel my experiences are more meaningful to me when I approach them with a sense of the Sacred operating in me and through me.

Ritual is a great way to signal your mind that you are moving into a different space.  I have a ritual of writing in my journal, drawing cards from a couple of different oracle decks, and meditating.  I gather all the things I will need on my bed, sit cross-legged up by my pillow and tuck the blankets on my lap.  I feel cozy, and I have cued my mind that we’re going to be here for a while.  My mind moves into meditation easier sitting there after writing than it does if I just sit down and decide to journal.

Another reason to change a routine into a ritual is for those tasks that I just don’t enjoy.  I can usually think of about a hundred other things I could be doing than folding the laundry.  On the days where it is just part of the routine, I often get distracted, and it takes me four times as long to finish, because I really don’t want to be doing it.  It gets done a lot faster and easier when I look at the chore as a way to serve my family.  It is an expression of my love for my children that I sort and fold their laundry (they still have to put it away 😉 ). It also is a perfect time to practice mindfulness meditation!

Thank you for all your comments last week!  Please leave more comments below and let me know what routines you are turning into rituals.

Blessings,

Mary

The Importance of Ritual, Part 1

Ritual: A Series of Actions, Taken Mindfully, Preparing a Transition to Another State Of Mind.

Ritual: A Series of Actions, Taken Mindfully, Preparing a Transition to Another State Of Mind.

What do you think of when you see the word “ritual”?  Do you picture candles and chanting?  Or do you visualize all the things you do when you first wake up in the morning?

Okay, okay.  The things you do when you wake up in the morning are probably just a routine.  Or are they?

Let’s start by figuring out the difference between a ritual and a routine. Wikipedia says…

A ritual is a set of actions, performed mainly for their symbolic value. It may be prescribed by a religion or by the traditions of a community. The term usually excludes actions which are arbitrarily chosen by the performers, or dictated purely by logic, chance, necessity, etc.

Routine is a course of normative, standardized actions or procedures that are followed regularly, often repetitiously.

For me, a routine is something I do from habit.  It is a program I have created in my life, much like one would craft a computer program, something that runs without having to think about it.  It’s the route I take to get to work in the morning, or to drive home at night.

A ritual on the other hand, is a series of actions I take mindfully, that prepare me to transition into another frame of mind.

Using our example of getting up in the morning, let’s say I wake up, drink some water, have breakfast and get dressed. If I do all of these things every day without thinking about it, because it’s what I’ve done every day for the last several years, then it is just a routine.

However, if I drink the glass of water because I understand that it gently starts my digestion process and moves my body from fasting to eating while hydrating my body; if I eat breakfast and get dressed mindfully, knowing that these actions are transitioning me from sleepiness to wakefulness, and as preparation to go to work, now I have made my morning routine into a ritual.

In my case, on work days, it is more of a ritual.  On my weekends, it is routine.  It happens a little more haphazardly over a much longer period of time.

Another thing that helps me distinguish between routine and ritual is my intention.  A sense of sacredness and purpose turns a routine into a ritual.

Next week I’ll talk more about why I would want to have more ritual and less routine in my life.  See you then!

Blessings,

Mary

Back to School and Technical Difficulties

Yes, it’s that time of year again…back to school.  I’m not one of your typical parents who rejoices at sending my kids away for hours of the day.  Sure, it has its benefits, but it also has its negative aspects as well.  Like children becoming more oriented to their peers than their parents.  But I’ll save the homeschooling argument for another day.

I’ve decided to take some classes as well.  My church has some courses that it offers online, and relatively inexpensively, too.  I know that I am more disciplined if I have others relying on me, so I’ve gathered a group of my friends to form a study group, and we’re all going to take the classes together. I’m also debating taking a meditation course online, though I may wait until I have completed the other course to begin that. I’m quite excited, but I don’t want to over do it!

One of the components is an online classroom, and when I installed the software the other evening, I discovered that my computer is too old and slow.  I need more RAM and a newer graphics card.  It’s a long weekend, though, so I have to wait until the computer stores are open tomorrow to see about the upgrades I need.  Because my computer is so old, I can’t find the parts at Staples, or Future Shop.  I even spent much of the weekend attempting to get other old hardware to work in my machine!

One of the quotes my husband and I live by is, “If you’re not growing, you’re dying.”  My computer has not been growing, so it has been slowly becoming quite outdated.  Just like me, when I don’t keep learning and keep my mind active.  Whether it is improving my parenting skills, my financial literacy, or learning the process of manifestation (or all of the above at the same time!), I like to keep my mind quite active.

What are you learning about right now?  Please leave a comment and let me know.  I may want to learn with you!

Blessings,

Mary

Rough Re-entry

I’ve been home from Maui for a week now, after leading two Peaceful Woman retreats back to back.  I don’t believe I will ever facilitate back to back retreats again.  Re-entry into my other life has been challenging for me.

The retreats were spiritually exhilarating and fulfilling, and at the same time, physically exhausting.  If I lived on my own, and had another week off work, I might have paid off  my sleep debt by now! 🙂

So I appreciate your patience as I gather myself back together, become accustomed to the new vibration I came home with, and integrate everything I learned about myself into my day-to-day being.

Mahalo (thanks) and Blessings,

Mary