Back to Normal?

The festival preparation craziness is over, and life returns to its previous pace. I somehow always delude myself into thinking that life will get easier once ____ is over. And yet, once that thing is over, there is always something (or several somethings) that fill the void.

What is Normal?It’s wonderful to get away. Unfortunately, the rest of the world rarely stops while I’m gone. So there are things to catch up on – work, bills, laundry, homework. And more keeps piling up. So I am once again behind on my homework and email responses, and more responsibilities are finding their way to me.

I found out at Spring Mysteries that the ArchPriestess of the Aquarian Tabernacle Church of Canada is going on a learning exchange to Ecuador for 5 months starting this summer. I am the Maiden of ATC Canada, so that means I’ll be filling for her while she’s away. Those are pretty big shoes to fill, let me tell you! I’m glad she’s only going for a short while. I really feel like I have a lot more to learn before I take on that big a leadership role.

Once again, my work will be closed over the summer, so I am being laid off for July and August. I decided that I am going to read tarot at the Farmer’s Market this summer. However, the Farmer’s Market started yesterday, so I will be starting that next week. So much for having Sundays off. I’m actually looking forward to it, though. It will definitely be good practice for me.

So between work, classes, teaching, coaching, and now the Farmer’s Market, there’s still not a lot of down time. Yet. In July, I’ll have plenty (and plenty of other projects to keep me busy, I’m sure. Like the new class I am writing for the Seminary.) I’ll just have to take my naps where I can get them!

People have asked me how I manage to do all the things I do. I come by it honestly – my mom was a workaholic and a perfectionist (and I say this affectionately, not as criticism!). That, and I just can’t NOT do any of the things that I do. They all fulfill me and support my life purpose in some way. If I were to stop doing them, I would be sad because I wouldn’t feel like I was moving toward my life purpose as fully. So I just keep going.

What about you? Are you moving toward your life purpose? What’s holding you back? Life coaching can help keep you on track and accelerate your progress. Drop me a line and check out how!

Blessings,

Mary

How Lucky Are You?

The other night on Facebook, my husband posted a link to this article: “Derren Brown: The Experiments – When “We” goes too far“. In this article, there was a YouTube video of the UK TV show, The Experiments. I have to say, I watched this video in fascinated horror at what the faceless “mob” will do to another person.

It got me curious about this show, though. Are all of Derren Brown’s experiments nasty? Certainly, the Guilt Trip episode was. And then I watched this one:

It is a fascinating experiment on how we create our own luck. Essentially, he plants the idea in a small town that a certain dog statue is lucky.  After several months, the townspeople certainly feel they have better luck than they did before. By planting the idea of luck, the people began to draw more luck to themselves.

So what kind of luck do you believe you have? In the show, Derren suggests that your luck is partly how you believe it to be, and partly based on seeing and taking opportunities. Another way to phrase the question, then, is do you see the opportunities that are around you?

Here are some ways to begin to see more opportunities:

  • Listen to people. A lot of times, we only half-listen to what the people around us are saying. When we don’t give our full attention to what others have to say, we can miss opportunities.
  • Be aware of your surroundings. One man in the video didn’t even see a 50 pound note laying on the ground because he was not aware of his surroundings.
  • Solve problems. A Lot of opportunities masquerade as problems. They may seem awful at the time, and then once you are through the other side, you see what a wonderful opportunity that problem really was.
  • Change your perspective. Is the glass half empty, or is it half full? It’s like those optical illusions – when you shift your view, the whole picture changes. (Life coaching is great for helping to change your perspective.)

I encourage you to make your own luck, even if that means getting out your lucky penny or lucky rabbit’s foot from when you were a child. You never know, you might get lucky!

Blessings,

Mary

PS. You can still get a lucky savings of $10 off the Elements of Abundance course if you take advantage of the opportunity before July 3rd.

Busy-ness and Business

June is a crazy month for me, and especially the last half of the month. I am so glad it is almost over!

busy personTwo of my boys have their birthdays in June, so we have birthday parties to deal with. Mostly we combine their parties into one event, because trying to find two separate dates at the end of June to have parties is just crazy.

Then there are all the end of school activities, and ceremonies and parties and beach days. The amount of permission slips I have signed in the last two weeks is out of control! Part of me wonders why they bother even calling it school at this time of year. But if it gets their required educational days in, I guess that makes everyone happy.

Father’s Day and the Summer Solstice are also end of June activities, and the Full Moon tends to fall in this time frame as well.

This year I’ve got an extra serving of work on my plate with the classes I am taking, and the assignments I have to grade for the class I taught. Thankfully, I have managed to finish grading all the assignments that have been turned in. Yay, me!

That covers the busy-ness. Now the business…

I’m running the Elements of Abundance course again, starting this week! You can register here, and it is only $47 for the 5-week class. The people who took it at the beginning of the year had some excellent results, and very good things to say about the course. And if you’re feeling lucky, there is still a bit of time to check out the Facebook contest!

You also still have time to register for my Summer Coaching Special. This is an amazing deal, with the 2 hour Discovery Session and 8 weeks of coaching – over $1000 worth of coaching for only $250! You’d be amazed at what you can accomplish in just 2 months. You can register for that here:

Summer Coaching Special for only $250

I look forward to working with you!

Blessings,

Mary

There’s No Such Thing as an Overnight Success

I’ve been thinking lately about how much work it takes to become an “overnight” success. We hear success stories all the time – like Susan Boyle, the woman who sang on Britain’s Got Talent and overnight became a YouTube Star. It’s everyone’s dream – an woman takes a courageous step and sings on a television show, and it turns out she has a voice like an angel. She is suddenly discovered, and lives happily ever after.

It’s something I sometimes dream about – some publisher will see my writing and ask me to write a book, or some audio book producer will hear my guided meditations and ask me to record a book. Or that ten people will suddenly ask me to be their coach and offer to pay me really well.

And I also know that most of the time, the world doesn’t work that way.  The authors of the Chicken Soup for the Soul books were rejected by over 140 publishers before finally finding one that would take a chance on them. Thomas Edison failed thousands of times to create a working incandescent bulb before finally achieving that goal.

Take actionWhat do these successful people have in common? They kept going. They didn’t let their challenges stop them. They know what needs to be done, and they do it.

And most of us know what we need to do to be successful at whatever our chosen dream is. We just choose not to do it. Why is that?

Because we get discouraged. It’s not very satisfying to work at something day after day and see very little, if any, results, much less financial reward. We’d rather have instant gratification. Or we convince ourselves that we didn’t really want it in the first place, and we let our dream die.

It takes persistence and perseverance to achieve your goals. I’ve been writing at least one blog post a week for almost three years. And only now after my crazy blog challenge are my website hits over 100 per day – most of the time. Unfortunately, that doesn’t translate directly into people buying my guided meditations or signing up for coaching.

And yet I have a dream that one day I will earn my living through my spiritual work – through coaching, selling guided meditations and one day books. So I keep at it. I keep writing to keep that vision there in front of me.

What is your dream? Is it alive and vivid for you? Or is it gasping and close to death?

Take some time today and dream a little. Think about what your life would be like if you achieved that dream. How would you feel? Then figure out one thing you could do today to move you closer to that dream. It doesn’t have to be big. Just a little step to get you back into action to reach your goal.

Remember, there are no unrealistic goals, only unrealistic timelines.

Blessings,

Mary

 

My Babies are Growing Up!

As a mother, a priestess, and a life coach, one of my greatest joys is to see my children, students, and clients grow into new levels of awareness.

My oldest son turned 13 this summer. He’s had some challenges with being bullied at school, and has moved through several different distance education programs over the last few years. Last spring he decided he would go back into the public schools this fall.

We chose a school across town where he knows a few people who attend, and also where the bullies from his old school will NOT be attending. Of the people he knows at the new school, two were girls he played with a lot when he was younger. Our families used to be very close, and spend lots of time together. Then, the other mom and I had a falling out, and unfortunately, the children weren’t able to play together any more.

He was really looking forward to seeing them again, since they had been so close in childhood. He even had lunch with them a few times last week. Then, the girls’ mom phoned us – her daughter was coming home in tears because she was being teased about my son having a crush on her.

I’m really proud of my son. As soon as he heard she was being teased, he immediately, and on his own with no prompting, said he would stay away from her. Because he knows what it feels like to be teased and come home in tears. Even after just reconnecting with someone he was really looking forward to seeing again, he chose to back off, so that she could have more peace. Wow.

Tomorrow morning, the first of my students elevates in our church. She’s been a student of mine for three years, and it is so exciting for me to see her efforts acknowledged in this way. She is a kind, gentle, helping soul, and I have looked on her more as an equal than as a student for quite some time. She battled her way through major health challenges with grace and an extremely positive attitude – I’m not sure I could have handled it as well as she did.

blooming plantI don’t take any credit for the growth of my children, or my students. I didn’t make them grow. All I did was hold the space, and water the seeds now and again. I am honored to be a witness to their successes.

It is the same with my coaching clients. I hold the space for your growth, and ask questions to water the seeds you plant. I will also be there to witness and celebrate you as you bloom. If you are interested in seeing how life coaching can help you accelerate your growth, contact me today.

Blessings,

Mary

I’ve Been Hiding Something

I recently enrolled in a 90-day intensive coaching program to take my business to the next level (i.e. not just a hobby). One of my mentors shared this with us this week, and it really struck a chord for me.

RUN TO THE FEAR…IT’S WHAT IS VALUABLE!

The things we fear are probably feared by others, and when we avoid them, we’re doing what others are doing as well.

Which is why there’s a scarcity of whatever work it is we’re avoiding.

And of course, scarcity often creates value.

The shortcut is simple: if you’re afraid of something, of putting yourself out there, of creating a kind of connection or a promise, that’s a clue that you’re on the right track. Go, do that.

Garrett J White

Mary HidingThat quote, in combination with exploring my story, the turning points in my life, and my message, really got me thinking. A lot of my story – what brought me to this point in my life, this website, the meditations and the spiritual coaching – revolves around my spirituality.

And yet, I’ve been dancing around that spirituality without being clear about it for almost three years. I was afraid of being judged. I was afraid of not being liked. I was afraid of scaring off potential clients.

This week I realized that my fear has kept me small, and it has made my message murky. I haven’t been completely authentic or in alignment with myself on Walks Within. It even kept me from sharing a huge accomplishment a couple of months ago. That changes today.

If you haven’t guessed it from some of my postings, I am Pagan. In fact, I am a High Priestess with the Aquarian Tabernacle Church of Canada, a legally recognized Wiccan Church. I have a congregation of people that I serve and teach on a regular basis.

The words “Wiccan” and “Pagan” have some negative connotations, and those negative connotations are part of what has driven my fear. It may even bring up some fear for you. Here is what being a Wiccan means to me:

  • I honor both the feminine and masculine aspects of the Divine
  • I honor the Divine in everyone
  • I honor the Divine in the natural world all around me
  • I honor the Truth in all forms of spirituality
  • I honor each individual’s path to the Divine
  • I take responsibility for my actions and everything that happens to me

That’s the basics for me. Over the next few weeks I’ll be sharing my story with you. I want to thank you for being part of my journey, and continuing to learn and grow with me.

Blessings,

Mary

Thanks, Technical Difficulties and New Projects

I want to thank those of you who were on the Grounding call I held last week. It was a huge learning curve for me, and I was really nervous about it. You helped me feel comfortable and at ease. Thank you.

photo by See-ming lee

I also want to apologize to those of you who tried to get on the call and couldn’t due to technical challenges. Now I know I will need to use a different service. I’ll be experimenting with some in the near future. Thank you for helping me discover the kinks in the system I was using!

I’m starting a course with some other coaches, led by an amazing coach and friend of mine to step up my volume – my action in my business. I am planning to crank out a lot of meditations over the summer, when I have some time off from work. I am also planning to create a group coaching series for some of you who may want to “test the waters” and see how life coaching can benefit you.

There. I said it. It’s in writing. Now I have to do it! 🙂

And I think it is also time to choose a new Goddess to work with. I’d like to choose a “lighter” Goddess. Please vote in the poll below!

Blessings,
Mary

PS. I’m raising money to help a friend take some training in EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing). She plans to offer it in conjunction with her counseling in public mental health to those who would not otherwise be able to afford this very effective trauma treatment.

From now until July 8th, every guided meditation I sell will go 100% to help Jamie Sumner raise the funds she needs for the training. Thanks for your assistance!

Teaser and Request for Your Input

You know how when you’ve been away from something for a while, it’s not always easy to jump right back in? Well, I’ve been traveling on and off for the past two weeks, and settling back down into my daily, not to mention weekly, routine has been challenging.

DistractedMy sleep schedule is all mixed up, I’m having trouble focusing at work, and I don’t want to write today. My creative muse is distracted with other projects at the moment.

So I will tease you with the idea that I am working on a group coaching program for this summer. What challenges are you working on in your life that you could use some assistance with? Please leave your comments below, and I will see if I can work them into the group coaching program.

Blessings,

Mary

Speeding into 2012

Time is speeding up. How often have you said to yourself, “Where did this day/week/month go?” Or, “How can it be the end of the month already?” I catch myself saying this all the time, and I hear many others around me echoing this same sentiment.

Speeding UpBut is time really speeding up, or is it just our perception that it is? The turning of one year into the next often causes me to reflect on the year that is ending. What did I accomplish? What did I say I wanted to accomplish that I may not have? And what do I want to accomplish in the year to come?

This reflection is why many people make New Year’s Resolutions – to remind them of what they want to accomplish. So often, these resolutions are forgotten, or even consciously thrown out the window before the end of January.

I heard a year or two ago that the pulse of the Earth has been getting faster. I found this quote several places online:

“Time is actually speeding up (or collapsing). For thousands of years the Schumann Resonance or pulse (heartbeat) of Earth has been 7.83 cycles per second, The military have used this as a very reliable reference. However, since 1980 this resonance has been slowly rising. It is now over 12 cycles per second! This mean there is the equivalent of less than 16 hours per day instead of the old 24 hours. “

It has me reflecting on time, and my appreciation of time. I’ve been given some opportunities in the past week, and I’m really having to take an honest look at how I use the time I have.

I often think that I can fit something that I want to do into my schedule. Looking ahead, I think, “Oh, I have time in the evenings  or weekends to do that, no problem!” But when the evenings come, I am exhausted from work, or I need to take time with my children, or someone phones, and suddenly it is time to sleep.

It comes down to two questions: What is my passion? And what is my purpose? When I look at the opportunities in that light, it is much easier to decide whether to say yes or no or not now. And keeping those questions in mind helps me stay focused as I set my goals for this coming year. Because when I am in alignment with my passion and my purpose, time flies because I am enjoying myself, and not because I have taken on too much.

Blessings,

Mary

Do you need help discovering your passion or your purpose? Do you need someone to keep you focused on the goals you have set for yourself? Do you need help setting goals? Consider hiring a life coach. I offer a free sample session to find out if we make a good team.

Redefining Free Time

Law of attraction teachers will say that to receive what you want, you have to know what you want. Be very clear about it.

For several years now, through coaching, meditation and journalling, as well as other tools, I have working to get clear on what I want. For me, it boils down to these three things:

  • Time freedom
  • Raise my vibration
  • Earn my living from my spiritual work

I’ve been actively working towards these three goals for over two years.

Free TimeRecently, I’ve noticed just how jam-packed my schedule is. Added responsibilities at work, rehearsing for a play, extra-curricular activities for my boys, and my own regular activities have left me with very little free time. That first goal feels ever so elusive right now!

One of my core beliefs is that my outer world is a reflection of my inner world. So it occurred to me during my morning meditation last week that perhaps my lack of free time has something to do with how I am thinking and talking about time.

I thought about that for a little while, and sure enough, all of my language about time was negative. “I don’t have time for that”, “when have I had time”, “in all my copious spare time” (read that last one with a heavy dose of sarcasm).

The past few days, I’ve been thinking about how I can change my thinking about time. It’s not been quite as clear as I had hoped. The first thing I need to realize is that I have chosen all of the things and activities that I am currently involved in.

I choose to go to work (the biggest allocation of my time) in service to my family, so we can continue to have a place to live and food to eat.

I chose to audition for the play, and then to accept the part I was offered. And I really am having fun and enjoying the new relationships I am building.

I chose to enroll my boys in karate, to encourage physical activity and self discipline.

I choose to continue writing my blog, and organizing my spiritual circle, and coach my clients. It fills me with joy to witness others grow and expand.

I really have more freedom than I thought I did, once I stop and re-frame how I see my time being used. Time freedom is more about who I am choosing to be, than what I am doing with my time.  Choosing to be in love and gratitude, no matter what I am doing, is my mission for this week!

Blessings,

Mary

PS. Happy Thanksgiving to everyone in Canada!