My Babies are Growing Up!

As a mother, a priestess, and a life coach, one of my greatest joys is to see my children, students, and clients grow into new levels of awareness.

My oldest son turned 13 this summer. He’s had some challenges with being bullied at school, and has moved through several different distance education programs over the last few years. Last spring he decided he would go back into the public schools this fall.

We chose a school across town where he knows a few people who attend, and also where the bullies from his old school will NOT be attending. Of the people he knows at the new school, two were girls he played with a lot when he was younger. Our families used to be very close, and spend lots of time together. Then, the other mom and I had a falling out, and unfortunately, the children weren’t able to play together any more.

He was really looking forward to seeing them again, since they had been so close in childhood. He even had lunch with them a few times last week. Then, the girls’ mom phoned us – her daughter was coming home in tears because she was being teased about my son having a crush on her.

I’m really proud of my son. As soon as he heard she was being teased, he immediately, and on his own with no prompting, said he would stay away from her. Because he knows what it feels like to be teased and come home in tears. Even after just reconnecting with someone he was really looking forward to seeing again, he chose to back off, so that she could have more peace. Wow.

Tomorrow morning, the first of my students elevates in our church. She’s been a student of mine for three years, and it is so exciting for me to see her efforts acknowledged in this way. She is a kind, gentle, helping soul, and I have looked on her more as an equal than as a student for quite some time. She battled her way through major health challenges with grace and an extremely positive attitude – I’m not sure I could have handled it as well as she did.

blooming plantI don’t take any credit for the growth of my children, or my students. I didn’t make them grow. All I did was hold the space, and water the seeds now and again. I am honored to be a witness to their successes.

It is the same with my coaching clients. I hold the space for your growth, and ask questions to water the seeds you plant. I will also be there to witness and celebrate you as you bloom. If you are interested in seeing how life coaching can help you accelerate your growth, contact me today.

Blessings,

Mary

What a Slug Taught Me About Getting What I Want

Thimbleberries

For those of you wondering what the heck thimbleberries are…

I was walking on the path through the woods near our home the other day. I hadn’t eaten breakfast yet, so I was grateful for the abundant harvest of thimbleberries and huckleberries that nature was providing me. I was thoroughly enjoying the beautiful morning, and all of my attention was on spotting the red jewels hiding in the green leaves.

As I reached out to grab one particularly enticing berry, my foot slipped off the tree root I was using to get myself closer to the prize. I looked down, and realized the reason my foot had slipped was because I had stepped on a slug.

Now, many of you might say, “Ewww! Gross!” when stepping on a slug. And had I been barefooted, I certainly would have. But, I was wearing shoes, and so I felt bad that I had injured the poor creature. It was even one of the native banana slugs, and not one of the imported black European slugs. Why should I feel sorry for a slimy slug? Well, here I was, an outsider coming into its home, and not giving any attention to where I was placing my giant feet. I was focused only on getting what I wanted, and not aware of how my desire was affecting others around me.

I think (I hope) the slug was all right. It was a fairly large slug, and I only stepped on the end of its tail and rolled it off the tree root. It was starting to move away as I sent it some Reiki and apologized profusely for stepping on it.

I started to think about how my actions toward achieving my goals and dreams were affecting others around me, especially my family. I work to provide for them, and I do other work to fill my spirit. And sometimes all of that means I don’t get to spend as much time with them as we all would like. So I made sure after my walk was over to spend some time focused just on my children. It was a little challenging since they really enjoy their computer time. 🙂 But we went and played in the river, and I’ve been ensuring that I give them my full attention when they are speaking to me.

Stepping on that slug really made me more aware of where I was giving my attention. I like to think I am giving more of it to the things that are worthwhile. I can still get what I want (like the berry I picked after I stepped on the slug), without bringing more pain to others around me.

Where are you giving your attention? And how is going for what you want affecting others around you?

Blessings,

Mary