Unrealistic Timelines

There’s a quote I often tell my coaching clients: “There are no unrealistic goals. Only unrealistic timelines.” (adapted from Brian Tracy) I forget it myself, sometimes, though.

goals timelinesI’ve had lots of ideas and dreams. There is so much I want to learn and do – I want to make a difference in the world. And there’s smaller, personal goals I am working on.

Progress has been excruciatingly slow. Other responsibilities, and distractions, have slowed me down.

I remind myself that baby steps are still progress. And I definitely have made progress, even if it is not as much progress as I would have liked.

In some areas, I am farther along than I would have guessed seven years ago. In other ways, not so much.

It’s been over seven years since I began this blog. That alone is something I wouldn’t have guessed. I’ve recorded and sold quite a few guided meditations. There are still more to record, though. I had hoped seven years ago to have sold my guided meditations to a publisher.

As we come to the end of the year, I look back at what I’ve accomplished this year (if it is good enough for my coaching clients, it is good enough for me).

  • I’ve improved my tarot reading skills, and connected more with my intuition.
  • I’ve re-established, and expanded, my daily practice – meditation, mantra and journalling.
  • I’ve taught successfully written and taught several courses.
  • (This is a lot harder than you would think…)
  • I’ve managed the household expenses, and kept my family fed and housed.
  • I held the role of Demeter at Spring Mysteries Festival (and did a damn fine job, if I do say so myself!)
  • I performed the wedding for a dear friend.
  • With the help of some wonderful people, I organized Vancouver Island Pagan Pride Day.
  • (Once you get on a roll, it gets remarkably easier.)
  • I was present for my family as we mourned my cousin’s passing.

I’m going to keep this project up over the next couple of weeks. As I see what I have accomplished this year, it helps me hone in on what I would like to accomplish next year! It also helps me have a better perspective on the things not yet accomplished.

What about you? What have you accomplished this past year?



The Balance Between BE-ing and DO-ing

I’ve noticed a trend in my life.  I either get stuck in the DO-ing-ness of my life, or drift off into the BE-ing-ness of it. The balance between the two is elusive.

Not long ago, I was all DO-ing.  My days were scheduled to the minute, and I got a lot done.  My DO-ing times can be very productive.

And then, a couple of weeks ago, I didn’t want to DO anymore.  I just wanted to BE.  In these BE-ing times, its all about me.  I read fiction. I sleep.  I avoid checking my email for days at a time. I really want to hibernate, or go be a hermit. Its not that I DO nothing.  I still go to work, and I am still taking care of my family.

And then, I start feeling like I am wasting my time, because I am not DO-ing anything productive. But I don’t want to. But I need to keep the commitments I have made. And on and on goes the conversation in my head.

Balance between Being and DoingSo how do I keep a balance between my DO-ing and my BE-ing?  That’s the million dollar question, isn’t it? 🙂

Knowing that balance is not a static position, but one that is fluid, in constant adjustment, helps. There is no one thing that I can do and suddenly achieve balance for the rest of my life.  It’s something I have to work at.

So here are some things I am DO-ing to incorporate BE-ing into my days:

  • I set aside time each day to BE. Part of that is my morning meditation, part of it is my daily walk.  Part of it is writing in my journal.  While all of these are still “activities”, they aren’t about achieving an immediate goal, or accomplishing a task. They contribute more to my over-all well-being.
  • I set an intention each morning for something I would like to accomplish that day.  This way I make sure I am not drifting through my days getting nothing done.

What things do you do to balance BE-ing and Do-ing?  I’d love to hear your ideas, and add more tools to my toolkit!