Monthly Archives: November 2016

Why are good habits so hard?

I know what’s good for me. I know what keeps my body, mind, and spirit healthy.

good habits are so hardAnd yet, over and over, when my life gets challenging, the good habits are the first to go. And the last to come back. Especially for my body.

More often than not, I eat fairly healthy. Ok, ok, I like my chocolate. I do my best to keep it in moderation.

When my stress levels rise, though, I crave junk food. I know, I know, it’s a temporary feel good. And yet, I can’t seem to summon the willpower to resist.

I need to exercise more. My body is unhappy with being out of shape. I regularly look at options for classes to take, and they don’t fit my schedule. Or it’s expensive, or too much driving back and forth, or any number of excuses.

I have several exercise DVD’s, a yoga one that I actually love. And sleep takes precedence 99% of the time. Or pain. (To be fair, though, I stretch almost every morning, mostly to help deal with the pain.)

Why are good habits are so hard? Hard to establish and hard to maintain?

Meditation and journalling – so good for my mental and spiritual health. Meditation is the last of my good habits to go, and the one I drop the least often (thank goodness – I don’t know how I would handle my life if I didn’t meditate). I haven’t journalled in ages, though. (I do write this blog post, so that’s kind of like journalling…)

Am I just lazy? Well, sometimes, yes. To be honest, there are times (lots of them) that I would rather watch Netflix than work out. There are SO many other things I could be doing, that I want to be doing. Reading and learning and creating.

Not enough being.

And yet, HAVING to exercise or eat healthy or journal or meditate can also be too much doing and not enough being.

I enjoyed a nothing weekend last weekend. I had a (mostly) nothing day this weekend. The rest of my week tends to be pretty filled to the gills. So snatching a bit of screen time or book time here and there is my mental health break.

I’m honestly not sure how to find the right health balance – one that includes exercise. It’s just not as high a priority for me as other things. Because doing too much, which I regularly do, doesn’t allow time for being.

All the motivational quotes about good habits say things like, “Good habits are as addictive as bad habits, but much more rewarding.” Or, “Good habits, once established, are just as hard to break as bad habits.”

I don’t find that to be necessarily true. I have to choose the good habits over and over and over again. And sometimes the good habit is a much more difficult choice.

How do you maintain your good habits?

Blessings,

Mary

 

Nothing Weekend

This weekend I had nothing scheduled. Absolutely nothing. For the first time in many, many weeks, I didn’t have a ritual, or a Spirit Fair, or an event, or even a coffee meeting with friends.

calendar with nothing plannedAnd it was GLORIOUS!

I forgot how amazing it was to have 48 hours (actually a little more) to myself, and with my family. I watched a movie with my kids, and worked on some of my own projects, and slept in!

Having nothing planned didn’t mean I got nothing done. I finished editing the Healing the Waters Guided Meditation. (It’s available to purchase now, and all proceeds go to support the Water Protectors at Standing Rock.)

I also recorded and edited a new meditation is the Walks With the Goddess series. It’s not up yet, but I will let you know as soon as it is. (Just FYI, that process takes a lot longer than one would expect, even me!)

I did a lot of laundry. I had help, though – my youngest now knows how to do laundry.

I got some sanding done on the staff I am working on for the upcoming Spring Mysteries Festival.

And I helped my youngest work on his Young Entrepreneurs project – we did some math and made some beeswax (mmmm, beeswax) candles. We’ve still got more to do, and we made a good start.

I slept in. Two days in a row. I lounged in bed and snuggled with my husband and read my book and played games on my phone.

I stayed in my pajamas and didn’t leave my house.

Are there other things I could have done this weekend? Of course. Was there any better way I could have spent my weekend? No way. It was perfect.

Wishing you a nothing weekend sometime soon.

Blessings,

Mary

Water is Life

I’ve been off for a while – I’ve had a couple of very busy weekends, and wasn’t able to write. And in the two weeks since Samhain (Halloween), the world has gone crazy.

At least according to part of the population.

One thing is for sure – we live in interesting times.

waves-circles-285359_1920In all the turmoil surrounding the election and its aftermath, the turmoil at Standing Rock has fallen off the radar for many. Thankfully, not all have forgotten.

The Aquarian Tabernacle Church delivered a load of much needed fire wood to the Standing Stone Camp this weekend.

Our local circle did a ritual on Saturday for healing the waters, directing energy to our local waters as well as to the water protectors at Standing Rock. And then I found out that there is a worldwide prayer at sunset (local time) tonight, offering prayers to your local body of water. And yes, I will be participating.

Part of the ritual was a meditation for healing the waters. I wrote it back in 2010, when millions of barrels of oil were spilling into the Gulf of Mexico. And as I was reading the guided meditation again, it came to me that I needed to record this meditation, and make it available.

I have recorded the Healing the Waters Guided Meditation for you. All proceeds (your full purchase amount, less any PayPal fees) from the sale of this mp3 will go to support the Water Protectors at Standing Rock, because water is life.

I had hoped to have the recording ready for the blog post, and I forgot how long the editing process takes! Then I thought about delaying this post until I have the editing completed, and I wanted you to know about the prayer action tonight.

Healing the Waters Guided Meditation
Price: $9.97

Alternately, you can donate directly to Standing Rock. Keep our waters safe and clean!

Blessings,

Mary