I’ve noticed a trend in my life. I either get stuck in the DO-ing-ness of my life, or drift off into the BE-ing-ness of it. The balance between the two is elusive.
Not long ago, I was all DO-ing. My days were scheduled to the minute, and I got a lot done. My DO-ing times can be very productive.
And then, a couple of weeks ago, I didn’t want to DO anymore. I just wanted to BE. In these BE-ing times, its all about me. I read fiction. I sleep. I avoid checking my email for days at a time. I really want to hibernate, or go be a hermit. Its not that I DO nothing. I still go to work, and I am still taking care of my family.
And then, I start feeling like I am wasting my time, because I am not DO-ing anything productive. But I don’t want to. But I need to keep the commitments I have made. And on and on goes the conversation in my head.
Knowing that balance is not a static position, but one that is fluid, in constant adjustment, helps. There is no one thing that I can do and suddenly achieve balance for the rest of my life. It’s something I have to work at.
So here are some things I am DO-ing to incorporate BE-ing into my days:
- I set aside time each day to BE. Part of that is my morning meditation, part of it is my daily walk. Part of it is writing in my journal. While all of these are still “activities”, they aren’t about achieving an immediate goal, or accomplishing a task. They contribute more to my over-all well-being.
- I set an intention each morning for something I would like to accomplish that day. This way I make sure I am not drifting through my days getting nothing done.
What things do you do to balance BE-ing and Do-ing? I’d love to hear your ideas, and add more tools to my toolkit!