The Art of Recieving

This week I had coaching sessions with three different clients, from three different parts of North America.  All of them had experience in the healing arts, and were either working to, or wanted to, earn income using these skills. And each of them had challenges receiving money for their healing gifts.

My energy-work teachers told me there has to be some sort of energy exchange whenever I do healing.  Sometimes, the energy exchange can be as simple as a heartfelt thanks.  It could be something that is done in trade, for example, cooking a meal for me.  Or it could be money.  Because money is just another form of energy.

Give-Receive CycleIn several different courses I have taken, the teacher has had the room raise their hands if they are comfortable giving help to others.  Almost everyone in the room usuallt raises their hand.  Then the teacher asks how many of us are comfortable receiving help from others.  The number of people raising their hand is far less.

Our society teaches us that, “It is better to give than to receive.”  (I’ve been told that the original quote is, “It is better to be in a position to give, than be in a position where you need to receive.” I haven’t been able to verify that, but I like it!)

But if all of us are giving all the time, who is receiving?  And if I do not receive when someone else is giving, then I am robbing them of the pleasure of giving.

So how can we become more comfortable with receiving?

Practice.  Start with receiving compliments without diminishing them, or immediately giving one in return.  Let it land, and just say thank you! If you have to, give yourself compliments by saying them into the mirror. As you get better at receiving compliments, it will become easier to receive gifts, and money.

In conversation, be fully present with what the other person is saying.  Take your time before replying, and don’t plan your response in advance.  I know for myself this one can be challenging.  My mind likes to get ahead and think about what I’m going to say, or how I am going to answer. Don’t worry, the right words will always come, and the other person will appreciate having the opportunity to truly be heard.

Tell yourself you are worth it!  Many times I have found that a difficulty in receiving, especially money, comes from a feeling of unworthiness.  And if no one else has said it, I will tell you that you are absolutely, definitely, 100% deserving! (Just say thank you, and receive it!)

The bonus of practicing the art of receiving is that you will have more and more to give!

Where else in your life can you practice the art of receiving?

Blessings,

Mary

3 Responses

  1. Hi Mary

    I love your article. Very well said, simple and to the point. So true. I am just lately opening myself up to receive. Now I see it with different eyes. Thank you for the reminder.

    Namaste
    Suzanne

  2. Mary,

    Thank you for sharing this… I have been struggling with it. I’m in a position where I need it, but am fearful to accept it from many because I fear that it’s a form of control, as it has been in the past. It seems a lot of those who give, give to receive something else they want from u… how do u decipher between their motives? or know which help to accept?

    Thank you, I needed to hear this reminder 🙂

    Blessings

    Bri

  3. Hi Bri,

    It can be challenging to discern other people’s motives. Trust your instincts, or your gut. If it doesn’t feel right for you, then don’t participate.

    I find thinking of it as an energy exchange helps. The cycle is ALWAYS there. And depending on the circumstances, I don’t always expect to receive the energy back from the same person. For example, I welcomed a young man into my home from my spiritual circle who would otherwise have been homeless. He stayed with us for six months while he was looking for work, and later preparing to go back to school. I felt my contribution to the energy exchange (food, shelter, coaching, mentoring) was greater than what I received from him (a little money when he was working, some childcare and minor cleaning). I don’t expect that the giving/receiving “debt” will be paid back from him. However, I trust that the Universe will provide something else to me (perhaps it already has!) to even out the cycle.

    Does that help?

    Blessings,
    Mary